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I hope you never suffer like that. No one should experience those feelings. |
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I loved Sarah so much it hurt. Sarah S. moved to Washington, D.C. from California in 1995 right out of college. She was in the San Francisco branch of the same church I attended. So she showed up one Sunday morning in our Washington, D.C. Church. I saw her and I felt gravity itself pulling me towards her. Her beauty fascinated me. My eyes needed to see her, whenever possible. Then at my job, I walked up the stairs to the floor above and ran right into her in the stairwell. I had no idea she worked in the same office building! So we meet at Armand's Pizza next door. Over the next three years, I grew certain that she was a match made in heaven, my destiny, the woman I was meant to marry from the day I was born. I longed to be with my cute, petite Sarah every moment. Her Auburn hair floated in wisps around her eyes and Irish cheeks. Her eyes were magic. Her smile felt like the warmth of the Summer sun. Whenever she was near, I felt tingling excitement, on edge, and yet somehow at the same time a deep, peaceful calm at the center of my life. Her voice was so sweet. I always knew how to make her laugh. For me, hearing her speak was like being permanently in the pleasure of a laugh without end. We became friends, going out to the country to the horse races and a big pig roast. I was in awe of her. She seemed to be good at everything, yet gentle and tender. She was like an angel. One day seeing her in church I could swear that she glowed. And then she was gone. Despite her helping throw Birthday parties for me, her cards expressing her friendship, her notes of encouragement, slowly I slipped into the "Let's just be friends" zone without even knowing it. The dreaded "Let's Just be Friends" Zone. It's the 'Bermuda Triangle of love -- where romances disappear without a trace, and never return. No one knows where they went. I did what society teaches -- proving to her my friendship and honorable intentions. But the flame was slipping away. I asked her to marry me. By society's traditions, I was doing everything right. It was the right move at the right time. But by the laws of love, it was all wrong. I had already lost her, and didn't even know it. It was all too late. So what went wrong? I did everything 'RIGHT'! We are taught that being a nice guy and a good friend will eventually win her heart. Instead, she grew bored and restless. What a woman really needs in romance was totally missing. All my assumptions about women were wrong. All my assumptions about love were wrong. I was following "scripts" taught by society... that do not work. Now I see so clearly that I was doing everything wrong. It took me years of passionate research and study to find out what went wrong. I have spent 14 years studying, like someone trying to discover the cure for a plague. I devoured every book on the market from mainstream dating advice to seduction techniques to traditional books on marriage and Christian books about making love work. I paid for expensive seminars. Pick-up lines. Books by former bartenders. "How do I get a girlfriend" books. Psychologists teaching on romance. Sociological studies of men vs. women such as by Deborah Tannen. The language of love. Videos demonstrating pick-ups and body language. Secret, hidden recordings of real-life seduction. NLP seduction hypnosis. You don't have to buy those now, because I already did! I talked to everyone I could, especially women. I conducted surveys and focus groups. Back at the party school university I attended in Florida, my fraternity brothers had tried to teach me. At last, I "got it." But by the time I understood what they tried to teach me, it was too late. I finally understood, but only after I had lost the woman I loved. And it tormented me. I stared at the wall for hours unable to move. Now, it is so clear. I can walk out into any social situation, and work magic. Like flipping a switch. No doubt you are much younger. BUT TODAY, I COULD STEAL YOUR GIRLFRIEND WITHOUT EVEN TRYING. Today, I can turn on a woman like pushing a button. Now I know what causes a woman to be attracted to a man. Now I know what women really want, down deep in their feelings, even when they don't understand it themselves. I understand how a man creates feelings of attraction inside a woman.
But I want you to gain what I have learned. Why? Because I wish with all my heart that I could go back in time -- knowing what I know now -- and not make those mistakes with Sarah. IF I HAD KNOWN THEN WHAT I KNOW NOW, SARAH WOULD BE MY WIFE TODAY. Absolutely no doubt about it. I can have almost any woman I want now. But I still love her. I would trade all the women in the world if I could go back and do it right this time. I can see so clearly my huge mistakes, and I could kick myself... for believing society's false ideas. Since then, I have been a consultant on women to radio talk show hosts, international businessmen, and hundreds of ordinary guys. I've taught the answers to "How can I get a girlfriend?" Every time I go out and use these techniques, I am amazed at how powerful they are. Some part of me still remembers my younger days when I feared that I would not do the right things with a woman. So I doubt myself. And yet every single time, I see the immense power of these techniques. It's simple. If you understand women and what women feel and want, you do the right things. We guys spend most of our lives doing everything wrong, turning women off, driving them away. It's astonishing that anyone ever gets married. But I can't go back in time. No matter what I do, I lost Sarah forever those 14 years ago. (I wonder if I could win her back... but I don't even know where she is, and I hear by rumor that she's married.) The only way that I can squeeze some good out of my loss is to help other guys succeed where I failed back then. I can't go back in time and warn my younger self how to get it right. But maybe I can help someone, somewhere avoid that pain in the future.
PROMISE ME ONE THING: Whether you buy my book or not, decide now. Decide to study women, romance, and love like your life depends on it, like there is NOTHING more important. Would you go to classes to learn career skills? This is more important! Would you study a sport or a hobby? This is more important! Do it your own way. Buy whatever books you think best. But make it the most serious thing in your life (second only to God if you are so inclined.) There is nothing on this Earth as important as love. Don't spend one dime more learning anything else than you spend learning to be happy in love and romance! PROMISE ME THIS: Take it seriously! Don't make the same mistake I did! Let some good come out of it. 50% of all marriages end in divorce. Do you think maybe guys have some things to learn? If you're wondering "How do I get a girlfriend?" don't suffer in frustration! The answers are waiting for you. No one should have to wonder "How can I get a girlfriend" ever again. It's all here. You think you'll get married, and then not have to worry any more? WRONG! It never stops. You have to work at love every day, even after years of marriage. You think it is hard to be alone while you are single? Try feeling lonely when you're in a marriage! You can feel totally alone, totally frustrated even being married. You can't do without these techniques! |
